
The disciples of John and of the Pharisees were fasting. Then they came and said to Him, “Why do the disciples of John and of the Pharisees fast, but Your disciples do not fast?” 19 And Jesus said to them, “Can the friends of the bridegroom fast while the bridegroom is with them? As long as they have the bridegroom with them they cannot fast. 20 “But the days will come when the bridegroom will be taken away from them, and then they will fast in those days. 21 “No one sews a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment; or else the new piece pulls away from the old, and the tear is made worse. 22 “And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; or else the new wine bursts the wineskins, the wine is spilled, and the wineskins are ruined. But new wine must be put into new wineskins.”
– Mark 2:18-22 (NKJV)
One of the unique challenges of pastoring is dealing with so many people who are facing different challenges and joys in life. The other day in the matter of a few minutes I went from sharing a gospel message with a group of teenagers to praying with someone facing a serious surgery. On my prayer list is a family joyfully expecting a baby and a friend who is possibly entering into hospice care. One Saturday last year, I wrapped up speaking at a graveside service for a dear friend and drove straight across town to do a vow renewal service for a sweet couple. These are all real folks facing real things and I’ve had to learn how to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. It is okay for people to have different seasons in their life.
In today’s passage, John’s disciples wonder why Jesus’ disciples don’t fast like they do. Perhaps they think there is some sort of spiritual benefit that Jesus’ disciples are missing out on, or more likely, they see themselves as superior for the extra discipline they have demonstrated. Jesus uses this illustration of seasons of life to explain… They knew according to their social customs that even if you are in the midst of a fast, but you are at a wedding, you break the fast for sake of being a good guest (that was actually a rule on one of their own books). To not celebrate the joy of the bride and groom because you are “fasting” wasn’t being ultra spiritual, it was being ultra rude. Anyone can deny themselves food. The mere act of self denial alone doesn’t make you closer to God, it’s the attitude of the heart that matters. Fasting for fasting sake doesn’t get you any closer to God.
There would be plenty of time for the disciples to fast later. The moment they were living in called for celebration. Jesus was with them, it was a time to celebrate.
We should be careful of judging someone else’s spirituality based on their current disposition. We all go through seasons of growth and we shouldn’t expect people to be just like us. The old restrictions and fasts wouldn’t make sense for the season the disciples were in, it would be like trying to force a square peg through a round hole. (You can do it, but you’re going to cause a lot of friction and shave some edges off in the process). We don’t need to needlessly create friction or tears in the fabric of our relationships by judging others by outward measures. The heart is what matters. There would be plenty of time for the the disciples to fast after Jesus had ascended, but for now it was rude not to celebrate what He was doing by healing people etc.
Father, We love you and want to grow in knowledge of you and your word. Thank you for the various seasons we go through in life. Thank you for placing people in our path that can help us rejoice and lament in the proper times of life. Help us to be there for others and place no expectation on them other than that their hearts are genuinely turned towards you. Please guide us in your will and direction. In Jesus Name, Amen.
