3 things you should know before you judge your friends

Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.  (Matthew 7:1-6 ESV)

1. You will be Judged by the Same Standard you use with others (7:2)

It is easier to apply a stricter set of rules and regulations to others that it is to ourselves sometimes.  We see others faults much more clearly than our own.  We can be pretty harsh critics and most of us can be pretty good at fault-finding.  Think about this though, we should be expected to be judged for our faults to the same degree that we judge others.  I don’t know about you, but this makes me back off the need to be a harsh critic sometimes.

2. Sometimes the sin you see the most in others is the same sin you struggle with (7:4).

Ever notice how both the speck and the log were in the eye.  It’s easy to call out people who have sin in the same areas that we struggle.  This past week I have heard so many people condemn a girl about getting pregnant outside of marriage (don’t get me wrong… sex outside of marriage is a sin).  Though she is repentant she will feel shame for a while, her sin has become obvious to the world and is no longer private.  However, some of the people who seemed to take a perverse pleasure in her dilemma had requested help earlier for their struggle with pornography.  It’s easy to see in others the sin we struggle with.

3. It is difficult to do the right thing with the right motives (7:5).

It might be the right thing to lovingly confront a brother about his sin.  ( I would want to be confronted about mine.) However it can be difficult to do it in a way that glorifies God and does not promote your own ego.

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People try to be righteous (right before God) in three different ways.

  1. Some try to do as much good as they can hoping God will overlook the bad things they have done.
  2. Some point out the flaws of others around them and say that since they are not as bad as others they must be okay.
  3. Some come to God knowing that there is nothing that they can do on their own and so they humbly trust in what Jesus Christ has done for them to save them.

The first group points to their deeds, the second points to their lack of bad deeds, the third points to Jesus Christ as a their source of Righteousness. Which group do you think is actually right before God?

6 thoughts on “3 things you should know before you judge your friends

  1. Karen Savell

    You know I always wanted to know more about you…there are alot of people out there that don’t realize what you did…Hopeful you will reach alot of them thur this blog…God be with you….


  2. Megan

    Good article!

    Point #3 is absolutely crucial to grasp if one is ever thinking about confronting a brother or sister in Christ. Unfortunately I learned this lesson the hard way when I took it upon myself to confront a sister in Christ. Though I did it out of love for the flock she was affecting, my love for her was lacking. I found out after the confrontation that I had some resentment toward her that I did not realize and so it came out of my heart and through my speach to her. God convicted me and humbled me greatly! Thank you, YAHUWAH.

    I’ve learned that if we don’t willingly humble ourselves, He will do it for us. We must bow in all humility before God, asking Him to reveal to us our own sin and ill feelings (unforgiveness) toward that person so that we can insure we are doing it with right motives; and the motive should be love alone… love for anyone he/she may be affecting as the result of sin, but not without ALSO love for that individual.


  3. I appreciate this, and thank you for sharing something of use and value from the bible. I am ever-conscious of my thoughts as I meet people on the street. This could be an judgmental thought about what a woman is wearing, or the way a man speaks. I realize there is a reflexive response to folks who are different. It is a reflex, partly to create a category, to help the mind understand who or what we see. Beyond that, it’s not helpful. And even then, we need to take pause, to give some grace for the person and the moment to reveal themselves more fully — you only see what you have given yourself permission to see. Ya dig? I dig the way you write. Be well.


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